Do you ever find yourself saying or behaving in a way that takes you right off track from who you believe you are and want to be? As if you got in your car one morning to go somewhere beautiful and someone held a gun to your head and said, “No, drive straight to hell […]
“If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing half assed.” (KC Davis) I quoted to my partner as we got back into the car and we laughed. All day, a day of blue skies and glorious sunshine, I had wanted to get to the sea, to lie on the beach, and maybe go into the
Worth Doing Half Assed Read Post »
Do you have your dreams, or do your dreams have you? Do you have your feelings or do your feelings have you? Do you have your job or does your job have you? Hold it lightly, then you can put it down when you have had enough. Miriam Grace I’m aware that sometimes we have
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Click the picture for the full Guardian article! Oh Gwyneth! What were you thinking! Ha ha Why is it so hard to do the right thing when it comes to losing weight? This is a question that so many of my clients have asked me and this is a partial answer that has taken me
No will power? How psychological shifts can help when nothing else does Read Post »
Often reframed as mindfulness, acceptance, focussing or compassion focused therapy, and having borrowed from buddhism, Zen, Reichian therapy, the Gestalt practice of starting where we are has retained its power for nearly 60 years, for centuries if we acknowledge that this is pre-psychoanalytic. Basic counselling training teaches counsellors how to provide a safe space: on
Here and Now: the timeless, powerful and effective Gestalt teaching Read Post »
How can we re-enter the world post-lockdown in a way that is chosen, powerful and reflective of our growth in the last year? This is the question I have been inviting supervisees, clients and most of all my Nourish & Nurture (online women’s wintering) group as we approach loosening lockdown restrictions in the UK. We
No going back: conscious re-entry and post-pandemic living Read Post »
This article was originally published on Medium in January 2021: click here to view there. There is no doubt about it, the pandemic is different this year to last year, and our psychological responses are different this year to last year. Although we learned many lessons about how to cope well and even thrive in
Blue Monday 2021: Pandemic mental health is different this year Read Post »
CLICK ON THE PICTURE FOR MY NEW VIDEO: “The Paradoxical Theory of Change” ..change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take place
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So if, as explored last time, we suspend expectations, where does that leave us in our relationships? Does this mean we should expect nothing from our partners, our friends, our family? If they are ‘doing their thing’ and I am doing mine, how will we meet each other? For me as a therapist, this is where in
So tell me what you want, what you really, really want …. Read Post »
Gestalt ‘Prayer’ I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful. If not, it
Great Expectations Read Post »