People often deny their feelings. They don’t just avoid anger and grief, some avoid excitement, love, joy. This can be due to a false concept of ‘positive’ and ‘negative’ emotions. Every emotion has its purpose. We should fear them no more than a sneeze or a fart. They are just consequences of being alive. Unfortunately […]
Three common mistakes people make about emotions Read Post »
Isn’t it busy at the moment? Wonderful people setting up wonderful projects, everyone zooming and doing yoga, home schooling, street what’s app groups and people launching their own channels and podcasts. So much to help people from feeling dangerously lonely. Or maybe you’re like me, and countless people I’ve spoken to, who are responding at
The Legitimacy of Responding Slowly Read Post »
Not worrying during the current crisis is not only unrealistic but is also unhelpful. In this blog I will explain how to make worry your servant and not your master, how to use it to help you and not let it undermine you. Stress is a stimulus that provokes response and action and is therefore
Worrying Effectively Read Post »
I’ve recently been reflecting on loneliness, yearning and longing, feelings that my clients often report and with which I am very familiar. Sometimes I long for another person, whether real or imaginary, and I’ve taken to considering, “Who is it, I long for?”. Is it that person, or is it the feeling I get when
The benefits of exquisite longing and of hope Read Post »
Gestalt Prayer I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful. If not, it
Connection, disconnection, adjustment Read Post »
Do you remember the pose? Hands on hips, legs firmly planted a couple of feet apart, spine straight and head held high? Last Saturday, Dr. David Hamilton had us hold this position for two whole minutes, in his seminar on the Science of Self Love at the Tree of Life in Birmingham. Blood tests and
I have the body of Wonder Woman! Read Post »
Are you looking for a way to feel calmer and more balanced, to improve your health, your mood, or your connections with others? You might think that laughter is a superficial answer to your problems, but please take a few minutes to think again, while I tell you why I became a Laughter Yoga Leader
Laughter is Soul Medicine Read Post »
A re-write of my 2014 blog written for Valentine’s Day. I’m not a cynic and today is a good day to express my inner romantic and reflect on falling in love… I was with a client a few weeks ago discussing her relationship problems with her partner and we were remembering the stage in her
Love: is it 'blind' or 'second sight'? Read Post »
It’s for many good reasons that I have dedicated December as ‘Look after yourself month’ at Blue Skies. MIND – as a psychotherapist I know December is often a very stressful month for people with most of my referrals coming in January (straight after Christmas). Loss is experienced more acutely too. Family tensions and expectations,
Why Ho Ho Ho is the perfect affirmation for the Season! Read Post »
Do you ever find yourself saying or behaving in a way that takes you right off track from who you believe you are and want to be? As if you got in your car one morning to go somewhere beautiful and someone held a gun to your head and said, “No, drive straight to hell