Worth Doing Half Assed
“If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing half assed.” (KC Davis) I quoted to my partner as we got back into the car and we laughed. All day, a day of blue skies and glorious sunshine, I had wanted … Continue reading →
Category Archives: Compassion
My 3- 2- 1 Survival Method
Let me introduce the 3-2-1 Survival Method©, which I have developed over three decades of working with clients with depression, anxiety, chronic illness, and in emergency situations of overwhelm and stress. While I was in my own situation of illness … Continue reading →
Pandemic Pounds? How psychological shifts can help when nothing else does
Click the picture for the full Guardian article! Why is it so hard to do the right thing when it comes to losing weight? This is a question that so many of my clients have asked me and this is … Continue reading →
Here and Now: the timeless, powerful and effective Gestalt teaching
Often reframed as mindfulness, acceptance, focussing or compassion focused therapy, and having borrowed from buddhism, Zen, Reichian therapy, the Gestalt practice of starting where we are has retained its power for nearly 60 years, for centuries if we acknowledge that … Continue reading →
Be Reasonable! Reasonable Adjustment and The Middle Ground
It struck me today when I was in a meeting discussing work adjustments for colleagues with childcare responsibilities during lockdown, that maybe we all need ‘reasonable adjustments’ right now. It was an unusual perspective for me as a disabled person … Continue reading →
Blue Monday 2021: Pandemic mental health is different this year
This article was originally published on Medium in January 2021: click here to view there. There is no doubt about it, the pandemic is different this year to last year, and our psychological responses are different this year to last … Continue reading →
The Paradoxical Theory Of Change 2020
CLICK ON THE PICTURE FOR MY NEW VIDEO: “The Paradoxical Theory of Change” ..change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt … Continue reading →
SAD: should we attribute lower mood in winter to a ‘disorder’?
What if Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is not a disorder? And what if winter 2020 is not simply the biggest challenge to mood management, but a great opportunity to address the impact of winter on your mood? Before I get … Continue reading →
Just when I get my ducks in a row, in come the monkeys…
There is no exit strategy. The monkeys have the balls and we don’t know where they will be dropped. The frustration stage precedes the distress of the injustice and grief of loss. However, a deeper sense of internal safety grows within, once we learn to live with uncertainty.
Continue reading →The Legitimacy of Responding Slowly
Isn’t it busy at the moment? Wonderful people setting up wonderful projects, everyone zooming and doing yoga, home schooling, street what’s app groups and people launching their own channels and podcasts. So much to help people from feeling dangerously lonely. … Continue reading →