“If something is worth doing, it’s worth doing half assed.” (KC Davis) I quoted to my partner as we got back into the car and we laughed. All day, a day of blue skies and glorious sunshine, I had wanted to get to the sea, to lie on the beach, and maybe go into the […]
Worth Doing Half Assed Read Post »
Let me introduce the 3-2-1 Survival Method©, which I have developed over three decades of working with clients with depression, anxiety, chronic illness, and in emergency situations of overwhelm and stress. While I was in my own situation of illness I was able to put this method into written form so that I could share
My 3- 2- 1 Survival Method Read Post »
This article was originally published on Medium in January 2021: click here to view there. There is no doubt about it, the pandemic is different this year to last year, and our psychological responses are different this year to last year. Although we learned many lessons about how to cope well and even thrive in
Blue Monday 2021: Pandemic mental health is different this year Read Post »
CLICK ON THE PICTURE FOR MY NEW VIDEO: “The Paradoxical Theory of Change” ..change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take place
The Paradoxical Theory Of Change 2020 Read Post »
What if Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is not a disorder? And what if winter 2020 is not simply the biggest challenge to mood management, but a great opportunity to address the impact of winter on your mood? Before I get stuck in, I must declare this as my own opinion as a therapist with decades
SAD: should we attribute lower mood in winter to a ‘disorder’? Read Post »
There is no exit strategy. The monkeys have the balls and we don’t know where they will be dropped. The frustration stage precedes the distress of the injustice and grief of loss. However, a deeper sense of internal safety grows within, once we learn to live with uncertainty.
Just when I get my ducks in a row, in come the monkeys… Read Post »
Isn’t it busy at the moment? Wonderful people setting up wonderful projects, everyone zooming and doing yoga, home schooling, street what’s app groups and people launching their own channels and podcasts. So much to help people from feeling dangerously lonely. Or maybe you’re like me, and countless people I’ve spoken to, who are responding at
The Legitimacy of Responding Slowly Read Post »
I’m republishing a February blog this week. I used to do a Wednesday Morning Breakfast Interview in my blog, with various practitioners or teachers. You may remember Julie Creffield from The Fat Girl’s Guide to Running or Phillipa Wilson from Oakwood Yoga to name a couple (full list at the end). As I have so
Pyjamas and Pearls: Enjoying life with all we have Read Post »
Trying to be positive and ‘better’ to make others feel better is what I’m giving up for Lent. ‘Being positive’ has to be one of my pet peeves. Finding joy, however, is my absolute favourite thing. Can you tell he difference? I feel I can only write about finding joy if this is within the
'Being Positive' and 'Finding Joy' are different Read Post »
I am a psychotherapist, with a specialism in trauma over the last 30 years, who has long been fascinated with the mind-body link and how we can encourage ease of physical movement with psychological and physical experiential exercises. I am also currently living with chronic pain since multiple abdominal surgeries, cancer and chemotherapy. Recently I
Is it helpful to talk with clients about the psychological aspects of their pain? Read Post »