Sometimes we believe that if we can make better decisions we will improve things and we forget that part of life is the muddle, the mess and the maybes. “We call the the mud season.” my friend Nancy said, when … Continue reading →
I had [a therapist] that said being gay was “no big deal” to her. She was trying to comfort me that she wouldn’t be judgmental but when you’ve dealt with homophobia you also want it to be a big deal … Continue reading →
I have been privileged to have been in the position to support many mothers having difficulties with, and experiencing pain in relation to, their teenagers over the years and in spite of being retired from psychotherapeutic work after 30 years … Continue reading →
I’ve recently been reflecting on loneliness, yearning and longing, feelings that my clients often report and with which I am very familiar. Sometimes I long for another person, whether real or imaginary, and I’ve taken to considering, “Who is it, … Continue reading →
Gestalt Prayer I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I … Continue reading →
I was always led to believe the saying, ‘actions speak louder than words’. There is no doubting the logic in this statement. However, through my work with couples and studying my own and other people’s ‘languages of love’, I have … Continue reading →
A re-write of my 2014 blog written for Valentine’s Day. I’m not a cynic and today is a good day to express my inner romantic and reflect on falling in love… I was with a client a few weeks ago … Continue reading →
