People often deny their feelings. They don’t just avoid anger and grief, some avoid excitement, love, joy. This can be due to a false concept of ‘positive’ and ‘negative’ emotions. Every emotion has its purpose. We should fear them no more than a sneeze or a fart. They are just consequences of being alive. Unfortunately […]
Three common mistakes people make about emotions Read Post »
Do you ever find yourself saying or behaving in a way that takes you right off track from who you believe you are and want to be? As if you got in your car one morning to go somewhere beautiful and someone held a gun to your head and said, “No, drive straight to hell
Do you have your dreams, or do your dreams have you? Do you have your feelings or do your feelings have you? Do you have your job or does your job have you? Hold it lightly, then you can put it down when you have had enough. Miriam Grace I’m aware that sometimes we have
Pause Gently: Hold Lightly Read Post »
Originally posted on May 24, 2012 by Miriam Grace When the tissues and structures of the body are engaged and held in stillness… In that stillness there is opportunity for change and enhanced self-awareness. Phil Greenfield I attended Phil Greenfield’s http://www.corealignment.co.uk/ talk on Zero Balancing nine years ago. I know that I have learned and developed so much
Psychotherapy Without Words Read Post »
Often reframed as mindfulness, acceptance, focussing or compassion focused therapy, and having borrowed from buddhism, Zen, Reichian therapy, the Gestalt practice of starting where we are has retained its power for nearly 60 years, for centuries if we acknowledge that this is pre-psychoanalytic. Basic counselling training teaches counsellors how to provide a safe space: on
Here and Now: the timeless, powerful and effective Gestalt teaching Read Post »
There is no exit strategy. The monkeys have the balls and we don’t know where they will be dropped. The frustration stage precedes the distress of the injustice and grief of loss. However, a deeper sense of internal safety grows within, once we learn to live with uncertainty.
Just when I get my ducks in a row, in come the monkeys… Read Post »
The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing. Stephen Covey I’ve often used this quote with my clients, it’s a whole week’s topic in my coaching group starting this autumn, and today I’ve been using it myself. I’m sure many of you are familiar with the spinning plates analogy, and in
THIS is the main thing Read Post »
I am a psychotherapist, with a specialism in trauma over the last 30 years, who has long been fascinated with the mind-body link and how we can encourage ease of physical movement with psychological and physical experiential exercises. I am also currently living with chronic pain since multiple abdominal surgeries, cancer and chemotherapy. Recently I
Is it helpful to talk with clients about the psychological aspects of their pain? Read Post »
I had [a therapist] that said being gay was “no big deal” to her. She was trying to comfort me that she wouldn’t be judgmental but when you’ve dealt with homophobia you also want it to be a big deal to your therapist. I was trying to talk about how it wrecked my life and
Same Is NOT Equal: why being non-judgemental does your LGBT clients a disservice Read Post »
What if you didn’t have long to live? I remember sitting with a client during a session while she was waiting for results of a cancer test. “What would you do if the results are positive and you have two years to live ?”, I dared to ask the unspoken question. “Quit my job, travel,
The question that is so important and the answer that is not. Read Post »