How often have you been told “I want doesn’t get”? Today I want to talk about wanting and needing. And the importance of saying and of knowing, “I want“. That opening phrase, is problematic because it already hints at the … Continue reading →
“This New Year decide to accept nothing you don’t deserve”. I read this week in a jauntily, much shared, quote on Facebook. As a gestalt therapist I found this statement so disturbingly unhelpful, trite and shallow and I had to … Continue reading →
I have dedicated December as ‘Look after yourself month’ at Blue Skies. MIND – as a psychotherapist I know December is often a very stressful month for people with most of my referrals coming in January (straight after Christmas). … Continue reading →
Let me introduce the 3-2-1 Survival Method©, which I have developed over three decades of working with clients with depression, anxiety, chronic illness, and in emergency situations of overwhelm and stress. While I have been in my own situation of … Continue reading →
What if you didn’t have long to live? I remember sitting with a client during a session while she was waiting for results of a cancer test. “What would you do if the results are positive and you have two … Continue reading →
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I tread a path with one foot in one world and one in the other and if you see either just my complaints and suffering or just my peace and curiosity you are missing a part. It’s both, it always … Continue reading →
One of the most unkind things you can do to yourself when you are unwell with depression is to focus on getting better. Why? Depression is an illness that will run its course and when you are evaluating whether you’re … Continue reading →
Have you heard the story about the golf course in Calcutta? I think it goes something like this: After colonising India, the British in their wisdom decided that Calcutta needed a golf course. They built a beautiful course in a … Continue reading →
Sometimes people talk about ‘fighting’ cancer or ‘losing the battle’ with cancer. Quite early on I realised this wasn’t resonating with me. Aside from the fact that I am a pacifist and committed to non violence, I haven’t ever been … Continue reading →