Great Expectations
Gestalt ‘Prayer’ I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I … Continue reading →
Category Archives: Compassion
The Wisdom of Dreams
I love working with my own dreams and with client dreams. In Gestalt therapy we are encouraged to see all aspects of the dream as part of the self. When we describe our dreams we are encouraged to connect with … Continue reading →
Perfectly Being
The greatest loss, that of oneself, may pass unnoticed. Kierkegaard Last time, I mentioned Transactional Analysis and the idea of “I’m not OK, You’re OK” and “I’m OK, You’re not OK”. I would like to consider what we have to … Continue reading →
Being Perfect
We do not see things as they are. We see them as we are. The Talmud I have been aware this week of how much pressure some people put on themselves to be perfect. How dependent we can be at … Continue reading →
Smell the Roses
Instructions for living a life. Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it. ― Mary Oliver I was walking along a busy city street last week, and I was busy myself, inside my head, when the scent of roses stopped me … Continue reading →
Without Judgment
Without judgment, take a minute to listen and to know. What do you feel right now? Notice your body, your tensions, where you hold. Bring you attention to your energy, your creative life force, is it lively or flat? There … Continue reading →
Words
Tell me that you’re disappointed with the unfinished chores you see, but calling me ‘irresponsible’ is no way to motivate me. And tell me that you’re feeling hurt when I say ‘no’ to your advances, but calling me a frigid … Continue reading →
The Way of Imperfection
“It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.” ― Anonymous, The Bhagavad Gita Last week, I was reflecting on how empathy is a powerful re-iteration of the paradoxical theory of … Continue reading →
The Paradoxical Theory of Change
..change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take … Continue reading →