Once again it is through my own personal therapy that I first came to work with a concept that has proved invaluable in my professional practice with clients and in my writing to support people during these times. The model has been powerful for me and for anyone who has had the ground taken out […]
Feeling safe in uncertain times Read Post »
There is no exit strategy. The monkeys have the balls and we don’t know where they will be dropped. The frustration stage precedes the distress of the injustice and grief of loss. However, a deeper sense of internal safety grows within, once we learn to live with uncertainty.
Just when I get my ducks in a row, in come the monkeys… Read Post »
Isn’t it busy at the moment? Wonderful people setting up wonderful projects, everyone zooming and doing yoga, home schooling, street what’s app groups and people launching their own channels and podcasts. So much to help people from feeling dangerously lonely. Or maybe you’re like me, and countless people I’ve spoken to, who are responding at
The Legitimacy of Responding Slowly Read Post »
I had [a therapist] that said being gay was “no big deal” to her. She was trying to comfort me that she wouldn’t be judgmental but when you’ve dealt with homophobia you also want it to be a big deal to your therapist. I was trying to talk about how it wrecked my life and
Same Is NOT Equal: why being non-judgemental does your LGBT clients a disservice Read Post »
संकल्प ‘I am well, I am happy, I am peaceful and at ease’, I said to myself, three times, focusing on my heart. I say this three times before my yoga nidra practice and three times at the end. Its called a Sankalpa in yoga, and means a positive intention or focus that you wish to
‘A Paradox of Neuroses and Wisdom’: reflections from my yoga mat Read Post »
What if you didn’t have long to live? I remember sitting with a client during a session while she was waiting for results of a cancer test. “What would you do if the results are positive and you have two years to live ?”, I dared to ask the unspoken question. “Quit my job, travel,
The question that is so important and the answer that is not. Read Post »
I tread a path with one foot in one world and one in the other and if you see either just my complaints and suffering or just my peace and curiosity you are missing a part. It’s both, it always was. Miriam Grace 2017 I see it as if I’m prodding Death with a stick
Poking death with a stick, being a goddess and related activities Read Post »
I’ve recently been reflecting on loneliness, yearning and longing, feelings that my clients often report and with which I am very familiar. Sometimes I long for another person, whether real or imaginary, and I’ve taken to considering, “Who is it, I long for?”. Is it that person, or is it the feeling I get when
The benefits of exquisite longing and of hope Read Post »
Gestalt Prayer I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful. If not, it
Connection, disconnection, adjustment Read Post »
What is Life Awakening about? And how did I come to devise and write this concept? Life Awakening began, believe it or not, during training in CBT for Trauma, when I found myself sitting at a table next to a colleague on a training day. You could call it synchronicity, being in the right place