It is going to be very important this week to stop and listen to your captain, your soul, you true self or your Will, whatever you call it for yourself.
As we revamp our planning methods and overhaul our ‘to do’ lists, the ‘shoulds’ and ‘oughts’ and childhood conditioning will rear their heads.
You don’t have time and energy to complete a ‘To Do’ list so we have to really connect with what will make you happy and increase your well being.
It’s false to believe that perfection will make you happy. That’s an avoidant behaviour. At the same time, paralysis is not your friend either.
The 3-2-1 method is fully explained in this blog
Full posts can be found on this link
A summary is below
❣️ MONDAY and this week, make time to connect to your main thing.
Post a picture of your sankalpa or mantra in the group
💭 Monday is a pen and paper day!
Write down today’s jobs and tasks. What do you feel when you look at it?
Now draw a heart by each task that is part of The Main Thing. ❣️ and a sad face ☹️ beside tasks that make you feel heavy or burdened. How is the ratio of hearts to sad faces?
🖐 Monday follow the 3 – 2 – 1 method
3: rest move eat
2: worthwhile experiences / 2 beautiful things
1: a job that you’ve been avoiding but that will ultimately improve things for you
Visualising your journal as the ‘Captain’s Log’, write about your feeling and thoughts related to the direction you described on the book cover of your life.
💭 plan 1, 2, 3 How will you move, eat and rest today?
💭 Plan 1, 2 beautiful, connecting or heartfelt moments. What are they?
💭 What is the one job you will tackle today?
Make a list. This one is remembering Monday. Being utterly honest with yourself write an account of your time yesterday between waking up in the morning to bedtime at night. Eg, 7.30am- 10.30pm.
At the end of your list you should be able to see roughly what time you spent on personal fulfillment, on work, on housework, on caring for others, on TV and social media, on self care and on this course. This is a personal exercise and is about telling ourselves the TRUTH and looking at self fulfilment, self discipline and self sabotage, but without judgement or unkindness.
Go over the heart posts for the last 3 weeks, focussing on who you are, what makes you happy, what you want and what the blocks are. Find the wise inner voice and THE MAIN THING, make it concrete, draw it, write it and say it three times focussing on the cave in your heart centre where the light shines bright. If you’ve already done all this then ensure you have ‘anchored’ it to a conker which you keep in your pocket, by the bed or in your bag. Touch base with your inner wise space today, in calmness and love.
The Wheel of Life
Download and print 2-5 copies of this.
Or use your coloured pencils and and art pad (hand drawing is often more effective when working on deep issues) to draw this out twice.
Take your hand drawn or printed out wheel of life and reflect on your fulfilment in each area of your life. Within the sections of cake you can draw pictures, write words, or score numbers, or all three. Save the 2nd wheel for tomorrow.
Thursday Heart Reflection:
In your journal or your quiet time today, ponder the learning so far about your Will or the Captain, who directs us and can often delay gratification for a long term outcome, and your feelings and body and their talent for immediacy and letting us know what we need in the moment. It’s not easy to know the difference between what we want and what we need, and when to gratify our wishes and when to hold off. This heart reflection time is key to our growth of wisdom to this dilemma. Let yourself discover more about how you know when you are connected with your soul purpose or your heart’s song.
Thursday Thinking: The Wheel of Life
Never assume concepts such as this are accurate for you, they are broad areas and there’s no requirement to score highly in every area or for everything to be in balance. It’s about how satisfied YOU are in these areas, not about achieving a social ideal. This is where the heart reflections come in, and where the book cover concept is useful, to help you see if your daily life NOW matches your deep spiritual essence, your true values and so on.
Take the Wheel of Life and take a day this week, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday or Thursday. Now take your activities for that day and mark within the slices of the cake / wheel how much TIME each area of your life takes. Compare this to yesterday’s Wheel of Life Exercise. You might want to post photographs of the results here.
Friday Heart Reflection:
In your personal quiet space today, make a gratitude list.
The main habit to support you through this course is that of time to really LISTEN to yourself. Rather than racing off doing things (or being paralysed by the amount of things not done / to be done) it is essential that you question how these things to be done even landed on your plate.
By listening to yourself – preferably each day – you begin to illicit dissonance between your soul’s song, and heart calling, and your daily life. By reflecting on it you can begin to have the courage to change what you can change and the strength to accept what you can’t change. This perspective gives you “The Wisdom to know the difference”.
Today’s topic is:
WHY is it so hard to establish a habit that takes only a few minutes a day, that can impact the whole of my life now and in the future, that is not onerous? and WHAT has helped me establish this new habit, what works for me? and CAN I see the benefits in my life of beginning this new habit.
This is an active reflection for today’s action.
Take a sheet of drawing paper and divide it into four squares.
In the top left hand square draw YOU.
I don’t mean your head and face. I meant your essence. It might be colours, shapes, symbols. Try to AVOID words for this exercise.
Choose the colours intuitively.
In the other 3 squares draw 3 significant people in the same manner. These three people should be people close to you in your life. You perhaps live with them, they may be family or housemates.
Make a new things to do list.
Have no more than 4 job-type-jobs on there and highlight these with one colour. Ensure you have at least three things that bring you pleasure and joy on your list. Highlight these with another colour.
Body care – appointments, exercise etc are additional to jobs and soul longings, they might not feel pleasurable (you may need to visit the dentist or get a flu jab) but they are more caring for yourself rather than general jobs that might be for the whole household. So these can also be a different colour.